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California Divorce Blog–Divorce With Children

January 1, 2013

I often experience a rise in inquiries about divorce and child custody every January after the holidays.  If you are considering divorce I find that it is best to communicate with your children.  It is best to consult with a psychologist about how to approach this situation with children.  Children need stability and the divorce process can be very unsettling for children. Therefore, the following may be helpful.

1. If possible, tell the children together in private that the two of you will be getting a divorce. Obviously, certain situations will not permit this to occur. For example, if there is domestic violence in your relationship.

2. Make sure you tell the children that it is not their fault. Children often tend to blame themselves for the failure of your marriage or relationship. It is important to tell your children that you both will always love them.  Your children should feel like they are loved by both of you during the divorce process.

3. Do not alienate the other parent from the children. The children should not be forced to “choose sides” or agree with your reason for your divorce.

4. You should Co-Parent with the other parent. Even though the two of you have differences, it is extremely important to ignore your differences when dealing with your children and the other parent.

5. Add Structure to your child’s schedule. Divorce often causes your children to feel insecure.  Therefore, it is very important to have structure so your child will feel as secure as possible when going through a divorce. This means that a structured custody schedule is important to a child.  You do not want your child to feel as though he or she is constantly living out of a suitcase.

Obviously, these are general guidelines which may not apply to your situation. It is best to consult a professional psychologist or Marriage Family Therapist to further discuss.  I hope this helps some families with children who are experiencing divorce.  For any questions regarding your divorce please call Attorney Keith F. Simpson at (310) 297-9090 or visit http://www.simpsonlaw.net.

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California Divorce Blog–How to approach Divorce and the Holidays

December 25, 2012

The holidays are supposed to be a cheerful time but for many people who have a pending divorce or are newly divorced, the holidays can cause increased stress, anxiety and/or depression. People tend to focus on their family holiday traditions which can make people become further depressed. Here are some tips to help you through the holiday season.

1. Donate your time to a charity to give back and help others in need. This will also allow you to start a new holiday tradition which is beneficial to you and those benefiting from your service.

2. Reach out to friends or family for support. This is especially important for people who do not like to be alone during the holidays.

3. Start new holiday traditions.  This can be as simple as eating out at a restaurant, going to a movie or going outdoors for an excursion.

4. Co-parent with your ex-spouse.  Try to make an extra effort to co-parent so your children feel loved and cherished by both parents. It is very important to not say anything negative about the other parent in front of your children. Doing so will only add to your child’s holiday stress level.

5. If you and your ex-spouse are not speaking then remember that it is extremely important that both of you follow the court order regarding child custodial pick up and drop off.  Failure to do so will only add to everyone’s stress level.

I hope this helps families during the holiday season.  Please call Attorney Keith F. Simpson if you have any questions regarding divorce at (310) 297-9090 or visit his website at http://www.simpsonlaw.net.

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California Divorce Blog–Child Custody

October 2, 2010

The one issue in divorce cases which has the potential to make any case become extremely litigious and emotional is the issue of child custody. The breakup of a marriage is usually difficult enough. Try deciding who the children will live with and how often!!

Unfortunately, children often become pawns in a chess match when discussing child custody. For example, one spouse may be angry with the other spouse because of an affair. This spouse may attempt to extract revenge by not allowing the other spouse time with the children. There is a saying that in Criminal Law, you find bad people acting their best in court. In Family Law, you find good people acting their worst in court.

So what is the law regarding child custody? Who decides who will have the children? In California, family law cases are decided by a Judge or Commissioner. There are no jury trials in California Family Law Courts.

California law provides that it is in the public policy of the State to ensure minor children frequent and continuing contact with both parents after their separation or dissolution except when that contact would not be in the child’s best interest. California Family Code Section 3011 sets forth factors which indicate when it is not in the child’s best interest. If there is a question as to whether the issue of frequent and continuing contact conflicts with the health, safety and welfare of the child then the court will typically side with the child’s safety and fashion a visitation order to ensure the child is safe.

Parents often make the mistake of assuming that child custody is awarded according to what is in their best interest. This is not the case. Custody orders are often inconvenient for parents and that is because the orders are made according to what is in the child’s best interest.

If you have any questions about child custody issues please do not hesitate to contact the Law Offices of Keith F. Simpson, A Professional Corporation, to discuss your case today. Attorney Keith Simpson is located in Manhattan Beach, California. Attorney Keith Simpson writes this California Divorce Blog and practices Family Law in Manhattan Beach, California.

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California Divorce Blog (Divorce Options)

September 17, 2010

Welcome to the first blog posting from attorney Keith F. Simpson of the Law Offices of Keith F. Simpson, A Professional Corporation.  Today I am going to write about options available to a person who has decided to file for divorce (also known as marital dissolution).

In California, a person has the option of filing a petition with the Superior Court of California for 1) Marital Dissolution (Divorce) 2) Legal Separation or 3) Nullity.

In California, a person may obtain a judgment of Marital Dissolution or Legal Separation on the following grounds: (a) Irreconcilable differences that have caused the irremediable breakdown of the marriage; or (b) incurable insanity.  The vast majority of parties filing for divorce choose the former “Irreconcilable differences” as the alleged reason for filing for a judgment of Marital Dissolution.  The Court typically makes a finding to the effect that the Irreconcilable differences have led to the “irremediable” breakdown of the marriage.  In my experience Courts tend to liberally construe the term “irremediable” breakdown of the marriage and order a judgment of Marital Dissolution so long as it appears that their is no possibility of reconciliation.

You should be aware that California has a residency requirement which must be satisfied prior to a Court entering a judgment for marital dissolution.  At least one party must have been a resident in the State of California for six months and a resident in the County where the lawsuit was filed for at least three months prior to the Petition being filed with the Court.  In the event neither party can satisfy this residency requirement, the parties may file for a Legal Separation and later (presumably six months) amend the Petition to a filing for Divorce. This will allow a couple who recently moved to California to proceed with filing the lawsuit and obtaining a Divorce Judgment as soon as possible (6 months).

A Legal Separation, unlike Divorce, does require the consent of both parties (unless the respondent does not appear and a default is entered against the respondent).  Also, a judgment of Legal Separation does not terminate the parties’ marital status.  This will allow a spouse to remain on the other spouse’s health care insurance plan.  If a party obtains a Divorce, the other spouse is precluded from remaining on the other spouse’s health care plan. This is a very important consideration which all parties should consider prior to requesting judgment for Divorce.

Nullity is a completely different concept.  A judgment of Nullity may only be granted by a Court when a marriage is void or voidable for the following reasons: (a) incest (b) bigamy (c) a spouse was not an adult when married (d) spouse was erroneously thought to be deceased (e) fraud (f) unsound mind (g) force (h) physical incapacity.  There is no statutory residency requirement to file a petition for a Judgment of Nullity.  There is also no consent requirement between the parties.  Finally, a Judgment of Nullity acts to nullify the marriage (as if the marriage never occurred).

Thank you for reading my first blog entry.  Please do not hesitate to contact Attorney Keith F. Simpson to further discuss any family law questions you may have at (310) 297-9090. Please also view our website at http://www.simpsonlaw.net or http://www.califdivorce.info

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